My 11-year-old adoptive grandson told me that he didn’t want my Christmas gift if it was clothes. I told him that was rude and told him to give it back to me then. His mother, my daughter, told me that he doesn’t have social skills, since his biological mother was on drugs during the pregnancy. I asked why he has no trouble learning sports, video games and everything else, except manners? I’m worried that she is justifying his behavior, although she said that she has tried very hard to teach him social skills. Is she crippling him by justifying his rudeness?