As a pediatrician, mental illness is an issue I take very seriously. The question from a reader below is one I get often. As a parent of a depressed child, you do not have to feel hopeless or helpless.
Dear Dr. Meg,
I really appreciate all your teaching, suggestions, etc., which is why I am writing. I am so torn. I’m the mom of a 19-year-old college student. She failed her first year of college. Her grades are barely above a D, and if she does not pass this semester, that means she will have been out for three semesters, and she will lose her scholarships and her medical coverage via her dad. She is trying, I think. She said she wanted more of a relationship with me and her dad than she had last year, but she is still communicating with us the same amount, if not less.
She is not into drugs, and she is under a doctor’s care for depression. I worry as she is so immature but has a good head on her shoulders. I have serious trust issues with her as she is not truthful. Her dad and I have explained that this is an issue for both of us.
If I could locate a good therapist or counselor, I know that would help me. But living in a small, military community, I haven’t been able to. I know I need help, but I have no idea how to help myself. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.
It has been tough, harder than I ever dreamed. I feel I hardly have a relationship with my daughter anymore. I know I was and am a good mom, but I am at a crossroads with her. I feel the longer time goes on like this and we have no relationship, we will drift apart forever. I am sad, hurt, frustrated and angry but most of all, disappointed.
– Distressed Mom