Dear Dr. Meg,
I am a new subscriber to your podcast and I’m loving it. I have a question on extended family discipline and presence in my children’s lives.
We live in the same town as both sets of grandparents and own a business with one of them. The grandparents are very active in my kids’ lives. My brother and his wife are also in the business and live in the same town, but they are not as active in the kids’ lives. When my brother is present, he takes it upon himself to be an enforcer and often will correct and coach my son on respect and so on.
They have no children and I worry that because they are not present for positive re-enforcement, the coaching is misplaced. Believe me, I want my son to get all the coaching he can in life but worry he simply won’t like or respect my brother because he really doesn’t make efforts to be there outside of the larger family gatherings.
What are your thoughts on extended family parenting?