In your opinion, is there such thing as a healthy amount of using social media?
Dear Dr. Meg,
I love you! I listen to your podcasts now and they are great, keep them up please!!
My husband and I think we are doing a pretty good job with our 11-year-old daughter. We are raising her in our Catholic faith; we send her to a good private Catholic school, and she’s already an accomplished vocalist and dancer. But more importantly, we are raising her to be a kind, loving, Christian child of God. I will add we are older parents – I couldn’t have children and was pleasantly surprised with pregnancy at 41!
That being said, we did everything we could from keeping the television that my father sent her out of her bedroom (when she was seven!) to monitoring things that she watches in TV or music she listens to, but the wave of social media has overcome her!
I let her get an Instagram account earlier this year while I was trying to home school her to save some money. I thought it would be a neat way for her to still stay in touch with her former classmates. And informed as I am, I guess I didn’t realize it still operated as social media. I first understood it to be something that only her classmates and dance team members were on, kind of a giant text with shared pictures, and I do monitor who she follows and who follows her as that’s the rule in this home. What I want to ask you is if it is ever too late to somehow turn it back?
She is back in her private school now, so I really don’t have a reason for her to stay in touch with her friends on Instagram anymore but now I feel like it’s too late to try to take it away…. She knows she’s not allowed Facebook or Twitter. I still find she’s on there a lot & she’s also on YouTube watching DIY videos which are cute and give her great ideas for Mother’s Day gifts etc., but I worry if she’s already doing this at 11 what she will be like at 15.
She’s a very sweet, respectful and outgoing child and she does love to play outside, but I worry that this generation has already gotten addicted to it all. Is there a way to still keep it monitored or undo some of the addiction I see all of the kids succumbing to now?
Is there a way that kids can be a part of all of this but not be “addicted?” In your opinion, is there such thing as a healthy amount of using social media/YouTube so long as it is monitored and kept in check by parents?
I wish I had never started it, I swore I wouldn’t, but now here I am.