Have you ever experienced the loss of a loved one? Gone through a divorce? Lost your job? Or faced another difficult event? Perhaps you had a community around you to support you. If you did, you were probably told this by well-meaning family and friends:
Let me know if you need anything.
How did that statement make you feel? Did you ever take someone up on the offer? Did you actually know what you needed at that moment?
While our loved ones really do want to help us during our times of need, Let me know if you need anything can put a lot of pressure on the one who is suffering. You might not know what you need. Or maybe you know exactly what you need, but you’re afraid it’s too much to ask of someone else.
Mothers in particular struggle with asking for what they need. Women are accustomed to taking on the burdens of their families and trying to do it all in a society that encourages us to do so. But I’ve seen more burned-out mothers than I can count in my practice over the years. The ones who need the most help often have the hardest time asking for it.
This is why I’m excited to tell you about a new site some friends of mine started: NeedU.org.
NeedU is a place to give and get help. The site allows you to create a list of specific needs you have during a difficult season. From lawn care to meals to babysitting, NeedU is an easy way to let people know what you need or create a list for a friend in need. It’s like GoFundMe for personal services and help.