I meet a lot of people in my work and travels and I must say, meeting Bob and Maria Goff has been one of the highlights of my career. They are an absolute joy! Many of you may know Bob from his popular book, Love Does, in which you likely read about his dear wife, Sweet Maria.
I meet a lot of people in my work and travels and I must say, meeting Bob and Maria Goff has been one of the highlights of my career. They are an absolute joy! Many of you may know Bob from his popular book, Love Does, in which you likely read about his dear wife, Sweet Maria. Not only are Bob and Maria just a joy to talk to, but they have an irresistible depth and understanding of the things that really shape us the most. And they have some of the most incredible parenting stories you’ll ever hear!
Maria recently released her first book, Love Lives Here, and I recently had the pleasure of speaking with both Bob and Maria about the book, their marriage, their family and about what it means to parent courageously. It is one of my favorite interviews I’ve ever done!
Maria, Bob and I touched on a lot of different topics and they left me with a lot to think about. I’ll be writing more about it soon, but here are just a few nuggets from our talk that I believe are very important to grasp.
1. We are not the things we’ve done – or the things that have been done to us.
As adults, we have the unique ability to look back over our life and assess our actions and the actions of others. Unfortunately, we can also get sucked into playing all the negative situations over and over again in our minds, working us into an anxious, painful or regretful state. Parents, this can become a detrimental habit. If we are unable to move on from our past mistakes or wrongs of others towards us, it can absolutely adversely affect how we parent our kids.
Though we may not like to admit it, we easily allow our mistakes (and other people) to define us and we are quick to compare ourselves to others. It’s almost as if once we’ve failed or caused someone else pain, we let those things tie us down. When that happens, we often unwittingly find ourselves parenting in the past, and ultimately our kids lose. Mom, dad, listen to me… you cannot allow your past mistakes or choices to prevent you from moving and parenting forward!
Parents, don't allow your past mistakes or choices to prevent you from parenting forward!
You’ll hear Maria talk about this. One of the best ways to do this is by living in the present and facing the future with courage. When we choose to live courageously, we parent differently. The best thing that you, as a parent, can give your child, is a healthy YOU! If you can give your child a real sense that you enjoy who you are, are content, and not weighed down by the mistakes in your past – guess how your kids will grow up? They will grow up more content, they will like themselves, they will be able to give themselves grace, forgive themselves and they will be able to learn from their mistakes and move forward with courage.
What we don’t always realize is, that when we choose to be brave and live courageously, we give our kids permission to be brave and live courageously, too.
When we choose to live courageously, we parent differently.