Dear Dr. Meg,
Can you write on children and sports? My daughter is in first grade, is very tall and is very athletic. Everyone around us is always asking if she is going to play volleyball or basketball. So she has been asking when she gets to start. We have been holding her out because we feel that it’s more important to have family time. My husband and I have read 10 habits for mothers and strong fathers strong daughters, boys will be boys. She is in student council that meets once every few months and swim lessons once a week every once in a while not year round. I guess I just need a little pep talk that we are doing the right thing. We live in a city where people have their kids in one sports year around. It’s hard to find those three day clinics in the summer like we did as a kid. A friend told me about a basketball program that was only one practice a week and a game on Saturday. So I’m starting to slip on saying, No. My husband who has coached HS football in the past was asked to coach a high school feeder team. He just asked for the details and it was for 8 year olds and under, 4-days a week for an hour game on Saturday. He was just appalled. I would just go back to coaching high school with that schedule. “Plus” he said, “Parents that would put their kids in a program like that would be really annoying!” I just want to do the best thing for her and have been trying to listen to what she wants versus activities I would like her to be in. What would be a good age to slowly add a small activity? Thanks for all you do!