As a pediatrician, one great insight I have is into how kids view their parents, particularly how they view their fathers. I also know that this perception tends to greatly differ from how a father perceives himself.
If I ask most fathers if they feel like a hero, they normally say, “No, of course not. I’ve never really done anything brave or heroic.”
But if you ask a child who her hero is, she will most likely say, “My dad!” To children, their father is larger than life.
Recent research reveals that dads are spending more time than ever with their children. And yet, only 39 percent of dads said they feel they are doing a good job at parenting. Men, you must understand that your children view you very differently than you view yourself.
Because you are larger than life in your child’s eyes, whatever you do with them, whatever time you spend with them is magnified in their minds. For example, if you took them to the park once a month when they were small, when they are grown up and looking back over their childhood, their memory will tell them you took them to the park three to five times a month. In a child’s eyes, time with you, Dad, becomes magnified. The time you invest with your children has a far bigger impact on them than it does on you. Remember that.
I don’t say this to put pressure on you. The good news about being a hero dad is that you are already hardwired to be one. You don’t have to do much to maintain hero status in your child’s eyes. Just keep a couple of simple things in mind.