Extending grace to our children can be tricky. Grace is defined as undeserved favor and when you think about it, many of us give this daily to our children. Or are we really giving something else?
Many parents engage children so intensely that they over read, over think and overreact to just about everything children do. They have difficulty seeing their child’s faults because they strongly believe in the child’s goodness that when things go wrong, they are convinced that someone other than their child is responsible. The teacher, a friend or even another adult. Parents like this see their children through rosy lenses and while this isn’t all bad, it can disrupt the giving of good grace to a child. And this is important.
Never holding a child responsible for his behavior gives him a sense that he has no power, very little control and must be dependent on others to “behave” so that his life goes smoothly. When parents make his days smooth, covering all wrinkles in the road, he never feels that he makes a mistake because that’s what others around him do. Think about this for a moment. If you lived without a sense of responsibility for your behavior, you would feel little control over your life and never need forgiveness or to say that you were sorry.
