If you’re a mom and are willing to be honest with yourself, you’re likely more than familiar with the pressures of perfection and comparison. They often start innocently enough but are soon controlling our lives and dominating our every action. Comparison and perfection are cruel taskmasters and it’s time to turn on the light and tell them it’s time to go!
If you’re a mom and are willing to be honest with yourself, you’re likely more than familiar with the pressures of perfection and comparison. They often start innocently enough but are soon controlling our lives and dominating our every action. Comparison and perfection are cruel taskmasters and it’s time to turn on the light and tell them it’s time to go!
I recently had the wonderful opportunity to speak with author, blogger, and mom, Crystal Paine, known to many online as the Money Saving Mom. Her website, moneysavingmom.com helps countless families be intentional at home, in their business, and with their finances. Crystal and I had a wonderful conversation and while she did talk about some of the things she’s learned and shares as the “Money Saving Mom”, more importantly, we spoke a lot about the pressures of being a perfect mom, how to fight the lies of “having to do it all” with positive truths and about how she’s learned to authentically be Crystal.
Moms, this episode is just for you and I hope you’re encouraged and inspired by what you hear!
Saying goodbye to the idea of “perfection” may seem like a daunting task, but here are a few places where you can start. I promise it isn’t quite so scary!
1. Confront the lies in your head.
Every mother I know has a collection of negative voices in her head telling her she isn’t good enough in one area of another. Maybe it’s saying you’re not good enough at cooking or managing your finances, or maybe it’s that you’re not spending enough time with your kids – or if you only did this one thing, life would get so much better.
Every mom I know has a collection of negative voices in her head telling her she isn’t good enough.
We may have different scripts but all of us have this in common – those voices are LIES. The kicker is that we know that these are lies…the hard part is fighting them. Crystal talks about an exercise that she started doing years ago that made a world of a difference in this area. She began to write down the lies she was hearing and started replacing them with positive truths. Crystal says that it took years for her to change her mentality, but she is living, walking proof that this works!