Talking to your kids about sex is difficult, uncomfortable and awkward. It is for every parent. You are not alone in feeling this way. I know it would be easier to just skip this part of parenting altogether and pretend your child does not need to hear about sex from you. Or simply hand your child a book to read so he can learn about it for himself.
But I want to challenge you to avoid this temptation of skipping “the talk”with your child. Because if you don’t teach your child about sex, someone else will.
Your child is going to hear about sex eventually. And probably much earlier than you think. But from whom? Only time can tell, but it may be a classmate who hears about sex from her older sister. It could be a television show. It will probably be the internet or social media. It could be their sex ed teacher in middle school.
But no one has a greater influence over your child than you. For the rest of her life, what you say and do will mean more to her than what she sees a friend or coach or mentor say and do. Her attachment to you was formed from birth and that attachment is always there in one form or another.
This is why you must be the one to answer your child’s questions about sex.Because if you don’t, the culture will.
As a pediatrician, I have spoken to hundreds of parents who are afraid to have the talk with their child. What do I say? What do I not say? What words do I use? When are they old enough? What if they have more questions? These are normal questions and concerns every parent has.