If you’re subscribed to my newsletter, you know that last month I sent out a series on The 5 Love Languages®.
Dr. Gary Chapman developed The 5 Love Languages® as an assessment tool to discover how you give and receive love in a romantic relationship, a parent-child relationship, and in friendship. His book, The Five Love Languages, originally written in the 1990s, continues to be a bestseller today.
The 5 Love Languages® are:
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
If you don’t know your love language, I highly encourage you to take the five love languages quiz here: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
While Dr. Chapman originally wrote The Five Love Languages about couples, this assessment tool easily translates into friendships and the parent-child relationship.
I have found that when a parent knows his or her child’s love language, it can be a game-changer for their relationship.
Do you know your child’s love language?
Words of Affirmation: If words of affirmation is your child’s love language, words of encouragement will make him feel loved. Words are very meaningful to him. He will feel most loved when you look him in the eye and give him a specific compliment such as, “I really admire how courageous you were during your soccer game today.”
Words of affirmation are important to most children, whether it is their primary love language or not. The words we say can make or break our kids.
Acts of Service: If your child’s love language is acts of service, she feels loved and expresses love through serving others. This may show up by her asking you to do things for her, such as tying her shoes, fixing her toy, or getting her jacket for her. This is her attempt to connect with you, not make you her servant. As Dr. Chapman says, you don’t have to jump at every request. Teaching your child self-reliance is also a way to communicate love to your acts of service-loving child.