Contrary to what many mothers believe, being humble does not mean being self-effacing. In fact it is quite the opposite! Mothers who have an elevated understanding of their own value are in fact more humble.
Humility means appropriating an honest sense of one person’s worth relative to an others worth. The truth is, we all have equal value. Once we accept that we share the same value as another, two things will happen: We will appreciate others more and we will appreciate our own worth more. We think of humility as seeing ourselves as lowly or less than others. In fact, humility is just the opposite. It is embracing a realistic look at our frailties as well as our strength and then believing that we, just as other mothers do who have their own frailties and strengths, share inordinate value. We can love others because we can accept and love ourselves in our –less- than-perfect states.
Humility brings extraordinary freedom. When we lower ourselves, refuse to admit our strengths and gifts, or live with false modesty, we lower all mothers. Many of us do this without even realizing that we are doing it. Consider the following exchange I recently heard. Many of us mothers can identify.