Parents, I have a secret to share with you. Are you ready? There is no such thing as perfect parenting.
Parents, I have a secret to share with you. Are you ready?
There is no such thing as perfect parenting.
I’m serious. You may not think you are aiming for perfection in parenting, but how many times have you yelled at your child and then vowed, “I will never do that again”? Or how often do you spend Sunday night telling yourself you are going to be on time to every event, game, and practice that week? You are going to make your child’s lunch every day?
These are all attempts at perfection, and ultimately, when you set yourself up to be perfect, you will fail.
Perfection is the enemy of good parenting. If your goal is perfection you will inevitably give up. This year, as you set your New Year’s resolutions, I suggest getting rid of anything that is setting you up for failure. Instead, set resolutions that leave room for grace and growth. This way you don’t look back at 2019 and feel you have failed as a parent.
Perfection is the enemy of good parenting.
Here are a few New Year’s resolutions that will leave you feeling empowered as a parent–and as a person–this year.
Don’t let mistakes trip you up.
We parents have a great talent for lingering on mistakes we’ve made with our kids. And the truth is, we’ve ALL made mistakes as parents, and we’ve probably made the most (and largest) ones with our first-born or with the child who most reminds us of ourselves. It’s very important to go and apologize to your kids when you’ve screwed up, but it’s equally important to forgive yourself.
We can be our own worst enemy with that condescending or shaming voice in our head that says we “should have done better.” We feel responsible for everything our kids do or don’t do. I’ve said it many times before, kids love to forgive and they are okay with you messing up. We cannot let our mistakes hold us back. Get over that old hurdle and leave it behind you.
It’s very important to go and apologize to your kids when you’ve screwed up, but it’s equally important to forgive yourself.