Should Your Kids Grow Up in a Bubble?

MS-14 members live in a bubble – a violent one. Inner city kids live in bubbles that are different from farm kids. Private school kids, parochial school, public school, and boarding school kids all live in very different ecosystems and this is not only natural, it is good. Like influences support kids in the direction they are traveling and we parents are the ones who decide which direction we want our kids to go. This is responsible parenting. Furthermore, there isn’t a parent alive who doesn’t do this. We choose the neighborhood, the schools and the churches our kids attend.

Second, the implication of this statement is that it is wrong to raise one’s children without exposing them regularly to bad influences. After all, poor kids’ parents never wonder if their kids should or shouldn’t grow up in a bubble. This is a question asked only of parents who have the means to keep their kids from unhealthy influences. The underlying belief behind the question is that when a young child is exposed to swearing and bad behavior among disrespectful, tough kids, they will grow up to be wiser about the ways of the world. In fact, if exposing kids to bad influences is what you want, rather than allow it to happen without you present, why not start at home? Is it somehow OK to allow your kids to hear lude things at school witness violence, sex or view porn at school or a friend’s house and then come home where everyone does the exact opposite?  This is the great irony. We don’t do these things in our homes, so why should we think that our kids will be better off seeing these things without us around? This makes no sense.

Finally, exposing kids to “real world” bad behavior doesn’t make them stronger, it makes them act badly. Because children and teens are not adults, they filter experiences through very immature lenses. Rather than being able to discern that bad behavior should be watched and not followed, they decide to follow it. That’s what kids do. And why not? Mom and Dad sanctioned the bad stuff by wanting them to be exposed to it.

Exposing kids to “real world” bad behavior doesn’t make them stronger, it makes them act badly.

So, good parents, choose the very best bubble you can find for your kids and plant them firmly in it. They will have plenty of time to figure out that getting pregnant at 15, being yelled at by stepdad or having a run-in with the law should be avoided. Wise parents understand that the time for people to grapple with differences in lifestyles is when they have the emotional maturity and mental fortitude to make decisions about how they want to respond to them.