I’m the father of a wonderful daughter of 2 years old. I’ve read the book “Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters” several times now and I loved it. I don’t know if this is possible but I’d like advice from Dr Meeker. I’m Swiss and my wife is Colombian. We used to live in Switzerland but my wife wasn’t happy over there and had health issues, so we decided to move to Bogota, Colombia. Our daughter was less that one year old at this moment. I bought Dr Meeker’s book before she was born and it changed my life and the perception of parenting forever.
Now, after some serious complications for a long time, I’m probably going to get divorced (bilateral decision). Because her mom and dad doesn’t love each other enough and because not showing an example of love inside of a home is not a good thing for our baby and staying in a relationship like this is neither a good one. As you can imagine, living in Bogota is not really simple for a Swiss guy. I’m new, without any social circle and not happy at all here, living in a big city and trying to manage the language. I moved because it was the only choice I had to keep my family together but it failed. If I get separated, financially it would be almost impossible to leave over there.
I’m now thinking about leaving Colombia to go back to my home country, but being separated from my daughter is a horrific thought. I could see her during vacation time one month a year at best, and I think it would be better for her to have a happy dad, but it would mean that her father would live thousands of kilometers away from her. And I’m afraid that I couldn’t give her the love, attention and care she needs from her father. She is still very young (2yo) right now so I won’t be as hard as later in her life, I think.
I know that superheroes should sacrifice themselves, but should I really stay in a place where I feel I can not give what I would like to my daughter or show her the things I would like (that I had from the place I used to live)?? I’m not comfortable here, and as you can imagine, I will maybe see here once every weekend when we are going to get divorced.
If there is a chance that I get an answer from Dr Meeker, I’d like to thank you for taking the time to read my email.
A Loving Father
PS: Thank you so much for writing this wonderful book, it has changed my life forever.