My state, Michigan is going through a crisis of sorts. And it’s over bathrooms Who should use what or whose- when. You need to be in the loop because whether your state is having the showdown or not, it will.
Educators are deciding which students can use which bathrooms at different stages of the child’s development. You heard me. No longer a straightforward and simple concept, bathroom use is up for grabs. And so too, are the psyches of many innocent children.
Now young children who may or may not be questioning their gender identity are asked which gender they prefer- today, that is. Because next week, the child may change his/her mind. This is not a criticism of the child, but a comment on the struggle of gender dysphoria.
Then, according to the gender with which the child identifies that day, he/she should have the option of choosing which gender bathroom to use. This means that an 8-year-old girl who identifies herself as an 8-year-old boy should have the opportunity to use a urinal. Or go into the stall of the boy’s bathroom and sit on the toilet.
Likewise, a genetic 11-year-old boy who self-identifies as a girl should have the option of using the girl’s bathroom along with the other 11-year-old girls. Until he changes his perception, which may well happen after he goes through puberty because many children change their position about gender identification after puberty.
Sound confusing? It is- especially for young children whether they have gender identity issues or not. All children will be confused by the bathroom controversy and here’s why.
We know that statistically, probably around 1% of the population experiences gender identity issues. This means that 99% of boys and girls in the U.S do not suffer gender dysphoria.
These children, because of cognitive limitations of childhood, see much of the world in concrete, black and white terms. What they see determines what reality is. A cat is a cat and a teacher is a grown up.
Now they are issued a decision: is the boy in your class a girl or a boy? And by the way, what are you– a boy or girl? If they hear a boy say that he is a girl, they not only become confused, they seriously question their intellectual ability to make an accurate decision.
They see a boy or girl declaring that what they see is wrong. And being kids, rather than rationalize that something confusing and complicated is occurring, they determine that they cannot see things correctly. Then they wonder: if what they see is inaccurate, then what do they see that is right? Children thus learn to question their abilities to accurately assess life around them.
Then, these same children use the bathroom and the boy who says that he is a girl, accidentally lets the girls see his penis. They are embarrassed. They don’t know if he is wrong or they are wrong. And- they feel so uncomfortable that they do what most uncomfortable kids do- they chide the boy.