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January 30, 2012
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A very kind reader sent me this message and I wanted to share it with you

A very kind reader sent me this message and I wanted to share it with you:

Hi Dr. Meeker,

I channeled my “Inner Meeker” in a conversation I had this morning with my 14 year old daughter, and want to thank you! Last night she came down to show her mom and I her school outfit for tomorrow (today) which is a little habit I’m very happy with. Her jeans had some strategically placed holes
around the knees which I have no problem with…it was the larger hole on the upper thigh we did not like, and told her so. We had a controlled argument over who was right and who was wrong, and then she huffed away mumbling that we are restricting her ability to “find” herself, and to “express” herself.

Morning comes with my daughter still upset, giving me the silent treatment,but wearing different pants….I thought carefully about what to say because I did not want this to fester throughout the school day, and then I thought, “what would Meg Meeker tell me to do?” So I turned off the TV and calmly told my daughter that I am excited and thrilled that she wants to “express” herself, and now is a great time in your life to do this, but at the same time, it’s my job to instill in you a sense of self-respect,dignity, and modesty, and that those jeans were not appropriate. She did not reply and finished her breakfast. As we went about the morning rush, the silent treatment was over, and we had a nice conversation about other things on the drive to school. So I want to thank you for playing such a huge role in the raising of my TWO daughters, and I am constantly telling people about your books and to follow you on Facebook.

Name Witheld for Privacy


Moms and Dads out there, have you ever had a moment like this? What did you do?

Dr. Meg Meeker, MD

Practicing pediatrician, parent, grandparent, coach, speaker, and author. Say hello @MegMeekerMD

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