Talking to your kids about sex is difficult, uncomfortable and awkward.
It’s okay to feel awkward talking to your kids about sex! It would be weird if you didn’t. This typically isn’t a subject that most parents are looking forward to bringing up with their young kids, or teens.
Are you unsure of how to talk to your kids about sex?
Does it feel so awkward you avoid it like the plague?
Are you afraid you’ll say the wrong thing and give your kids the wrong idea about sex?
Do you worry that your kids will be traumatized and won’t want to ask you questions down the road?
Do you feel like you have no idea what is age-appropriate to tell your kids?
Are you concerned that your kids are getting the wrong information at school and from their friends
Does it feel like all the information out there is too liberal or not in line with your values?
You are not alone in feeling this way.
I know it would be easier to just skip this part of parenting altogether and pretend your child does not need to hear about sex from you.
If you don’t teach your kid about sex, someone else will.
Establishing an open dialogue with your children about sexuality is essential in teaching them correct principles and helping them respect their bodies. Especially in today’s world, where promiscuity, perversion, and misinformation are everywhere!
The good news is you already have the answers your kids are looking for.
Many of my 13-year-old patients believe that if they don’t have sex by the end of high school, something’s wrong with them.
They don’t know that sexting isn’t okay. You do.
They don’t know how to push back when being pressuring to have sex. You do.
It is your job to help them navigate the landmines.
It’s crucial that you establish yourself as someone they can trust and feel comfortable talking to about sex. This toolkit will help you do that.
Show them the way, and show them hope.
This toolkit will prepare you for any question your child will throw your way. Give them a sense of safety, values, and a healthy understanding of sex.
- Gain Behavioral Insight — Understand where your child is developmentally so you can communicate rules clearly.
- Interpret Your Child’s Actions — Learn the difference between severe defiance and normal developmental behaviors for more effective parenting.
- Find Your Voice — Boost your confidence when you learn to replace your emotional reactions to defiance with consistent, pediatrician-approved discipline techniques.
- Prioritize Correction — Apply the 8-Step Solution and the principles within it so you can correct bad behavior in children of any age.
- Effective Consequences — Develop age-appropriate consequences tailored to your child and build strategies to maintain consistency and withstand pushback.
Learn how to break down the personal, emotional and cultural complexities of sex to your child through discussion and boundary setting.
- Age/Stage Chart to help you know what to say and when
- How & When To Have The Talk FAQ sheet
- “How To Have The Talk” script
- AND, for those of you who just can’t bring yourself to do it, a video where I actually GIVE THE TALK to your kids FOR YOU, so you can have a conversation with them afterward.
- 5 Lessons
- 5 Video Trainings
- 5 Audio Trainings
- 1 Downloadable eBook
- 2 Downloadable Worksheets
"I believe the difference between feeling scared or lost, and creating confidence in your parenting goals can come down to having a plan and getting the right tools for the job. My goal is to give you everything you need to create a healthy, open dialogue with your children about sex” - Dr. Meg
As a pediatrician of 30 years, I have seen every parenting style imaginable. I have watched thousands of kids grow up in all types of situations, and through it I have learned what works and what doesn’t when it comes to raising great kids.
I have spoken to hundreds of parents who are afraid to have “the talk” with their child because they have no idea what to say.
- What do I say?
- What do I not say?
- What words do I use?
- When are they old enough?
- What if they have more questions?
These are all absolutely normal questions and concerns nearly every parent has.
I developed the How to Have The Talk toolkit to help calm every fear you may have around talking to your child about sex.
Again, parents, I know the talk is one of the more uncomfortable parts of parenting, but do not dismiss it. Don’t skip it simply because it embarrasses you and your child.
In order for your child to have a healthy and accurate understanding of sex, they must have their questions answered by the one whose opinion matters most to them: you.
-- Meg Meeker, MD